culture views the duties described in Titus Chapter 2, verses four and
five, as outdated and demeaning to women. Certainly the interpretation
of these verses in a patriarchal church has too often been
demeaning to women.
Many of us are repulsed by the command (or at least the traditional interpretation of it) “to be subject to their husbands.” Yet submission is a Christian virtue that is expected of men as well as women. (I Peter 5:5-6) This submission is an expression of humility and considering others to be better than yourself. (Philippians 2:3-8)
Every Christian is called to mutual submission. This is a mutual submission to our Lord Jesus. This is a mutual submission within the church. This is a mutual submission between husbands and wives. (Ephesians 5:21-22)
Marriage should not be a power struggle between the husband and the wife. Both need to be in subjection to the will of God, and be submissive and easy to be entreated with one another. A man should not dominate his wife (nor the wife her husband). He should care for her, in the same way Jesus cares for the church and in the same way church leaders are to serve the people of God. (Matthew 20:25-28; I Peter 3:7)
There is no room in Christian living for tyranny, abuse, or oppression of any kind. God made humanity, both men and women. He gave them dominion over the earth. Men and women are to stand shoulder to shoulder carrying out our duties in managing our resources and caring for our families.
"So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the land.” (Genesis 1:27-28)The other command that has often been misapplied is “to be busy at home.” As Proverbs 31 teaches, this does not mean she never leaves the house or never does work away from home. It does mean that she is expected to take her homemaking and child-rearing responsibilities seriously. How can a woman expect to be trusted with responsibilities in a public church setting if she has not learned how to manage her family responsibilities? (I Timothy 3:5)
Too many twentieth/twenty-first century women have grown up thinking the domestic arts are not worthy of their intellect. They have not learned how to manage a home or how to create peaceful relationships within their families. Younger women are expected to submit to the sound teaching of Christian women who are mature in character and have the practical and relationship skills they need to learn. This does not necessarily mean older in years, but experience and wisdom do take time to develop. All the virtues are not likely to be found embodied in a single individual, so seeking counsel from several women would be wise.
The greatest virtue of all is love. (I Corinthians 13:13) The home is the most intimate setting for learning patience, kindness, humility, contentment, courtesy, self-mastery, right living, and helping others. (I Corinthians 13:4-7)
Purity is disdained by the secular humanistic, pluralistic, and atheistic world today. A pure faith in God, uncontaminated by worldly philosophy, is mocked.
Purity in sexual matters, as described in the Bible, is under attack by the media and popular culture. It is invading even the laws of the land. Children are being seduced into substituting sex for love. Freely engaging in sex, in mind and body, outside marriage is not love. Love is faithful. (Matthew 5:27-32) Marital sex helps to bind the couple emotionally. Promiscuity, before or after marriage, destroys that bond. Marriage as described by God in the Bible is between one man and one woman for life. (Genesis 2:18-25; Matthew 19:3-8)
A young woman who has lived an impure life before accepting Christ as her Lord and Savior can become pure in thought, belief, and practice through belief in Jesus and through applying the instructions of the Holy Bible. (I Peter 1:22-23)
Young women, especially those new to the
faith, who seek to learn from mature Christian women with the qualities
listed in Titus 2, will be transformed into women who honor God and who
do not “malign the word of God.” (Titus 2:5)
For the Scripture References and
related Bible Study Guide, go to Bible
Study Guide: Train the Younger Women