|The 100 Simple Secrets of
Happy Families, What Scientists Have Learned and How You Can Use It written
by David Niven, PH.D. condenses observations made by researchers.
In each short chapter, the author states a perspective or action that contributes
to a satisfying family life; includes an example from a real family; and
concludes with the research finding upon which he based his comments.
Chapter 17 asks, “How do you communicate what’s important to you?” Then answers the question in three brief sentences, followed by advice from the parents of six children. One research finding states. “Feelings of closeness and high levels of time spent together are three times as likely to produce similar values and political views in offspring as are a parental emphasis on those views.” In other words, living your values with your children is more effective than telling them what values you want them to have.
This book is not written from a Christian perspective, but many of the principles are biblical principles. However, some of the perspectives and conclusions are not in agreement with God’s standard. Yet, overall the book does contain common sense advice. Those principles we were either too ignorant or too weak to follow weakened our family relationships. Those principles that my husband and I learned and followed from the Bible produced good results.
Any family could benefit from reading and
applying many of the principles explained in this short book of 200 pages.