Parents as Peacemakers by Nancy Vandemark

In a Christian home, parents are children's first opportunity to learn to be peacemakers. As Scarlett said in A Harvest of Righteousness, “People aren’t born peace-loving; we have to learn.”

We are selfish by nature and among the first things we need to learn is to share with others. When toddlers play, family peace is often disrupted until they learn this lesson of sharing.

Within a family, each child has his or her own personality. Sometime these personalities clash. Siblings who would not choose each other as friends are forced to live together because they were born into the same family. Parents must train them to exist peacefully together, not only for peace within the household, but to teach the children how to get along peacefully with others who are different at school and, in the future, at the workplace.

As parents we are admonished to “train a child in the way he should go (Proverbs 22:6a).” We need to not only be peacemakers, but also teach our children to be peacemakers. It is a difficult and important responsibility.

We may have selfish reasons for being peacemakers in the household as Proverbs 17:1 rings true.

Better a dry crust with peace and quiet
   than a house full of feasting, with strife.

Our primary reason to teach our children to be peacemakers is because we love them. We want the best for them and God tells us:

Consider the blameless, observe the upright;
   there is a future for the man of peace (Psalm 37:37).

As humans we do our best to teach our children, but we are not perfect teachers. Ultimately they will learn from the greatest teacher when they make their own peace with God through Jesus Christ (Romans 5:1-2). We then as parents may look on and rejoice as we see:

Love and faithfulness meet together;
   righteousness and peace kiss each other (Psalms 85:10).

I hope our Father in heaven is looking down with joy as he sees each of us in the same way.

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