Father, Please Heal My Broken Heart

Janet Treadway

How many of you have a broken heart?  You have this huge gapping hole in your heart that was left by someone or circumstances.  How many of you feel that this hole can never be filled and you will be left with the hollow in your heart forever?

There are many reasons why we are left with a broken heart:  death of the love of your life, divorce, loss of a job, loss of status, loss of health, loss of youth, betrayal of a friend, death of a family member, loss of a child and yes, loss of your childhood.

Along with enormous blessings, I have also had sorrow in my life but the biggest sorrow of all was the loss of my childhood.  The loss of never knowing what a loving father is like.  I will never know or hear the words from a father "I love you," or "I am very proud of you."  I will never know what it is like to feel safe because of a strong father in my life that will protect me and keep me safe.  This reality in my life has left a hole in my heart; an emptiness that I once thought could never be filled.

Even though we have this hole in our hearts I am here to tell you that there is hope for me and for you, for all the broken hearted. Hope for those who sorrow, because there is a healer that will plug and mend our broken hearts. 

David said in Psalm 147:3 “He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.” God wants to heal all of our wounds.

What is a wound?  If you have ever had an injury, or a cut, you know how painful it is and how it hurts to be touched.  Often times, sorrow or a loss is like a deep wound. It can be so painful that it seems no one or anything can make the pain go away. 

Sometimes our heart is so broken that we can't even express it in words. Nothing seems to take the pain away.  Like a skin wound, a broken heart will not heal over night. 

People who try to encourage can't seem to say the right thing. Like some medicines burn when they are applied to a skin wound, so can be the words of a well meaning friend who says the wrong thing at the wrong time. 

We would rather not pour rubbing alcohol on an open wound because it hurts so much. We search the stores to find an ointment that we can apply to our skin wound that will not burn and then cover it gently with a band-aid. That is the way it is with our broken hearts.  We need the right ointment to bring about healing.

So what is the right ointment for our hearts? How do we begin to heal and have the hole in our hearts begin to close? 

Recognize the Pain and Understand it is Okay to Hurt:

Like a deep skin wound, we must apply the ointment or a band-aid for it to begin to heal or else it can get infected and become worse. We cannot ignore our pain and think it will go away.  Understand that it is okay to hurt. 

It is during this time that we need a lot of love, encouragement and hope restored.  We realize how frail we are and our great need for God. 

Ecclesiastes 7:2 states, "It is better to go to a house of mourning than to go to a house of feasting, for death is the destiny of every man; the living should take this to heart." 

It is an opportunity to learn empathy toward others who are going through the same things. It is a time to reflect on the true meaning of life and the greatest opportunity of all, to draw close to God.  You cannot do all of these things if you try to ignore the pain.

Seek the Healer

God the father wants to reach down, take your hand, and walk you through your pain.  It may take weeks, for most of us it will take years, perhaps even a lifetime to close the wounds of our hearts completely.  God will spend as much time and as many years as possible to help you through it.  He wants to gently apply the daily salve or ointment of his Holy Spirit to your heart until your heart is healed. 

I know this because he has done it with me.  When I am down, he lifts me up in many different ways.  He is there for me to cry on his shoulder so to speak and then send his encouraging spirit to get me back up and going again. 

King David said in Psalms 56:8, (NKJV) “You number my wanderings; put my tears into Your bottle.” God was so aware of David and even numbered his wanderings.   God is involved and aware of our pain, our joys, our failures, our accomplishments.

When Hezekiah was stricken with sickness, he poured out his heart to God; God heard him and saw his tears.  God was moved to compassion. "Go back and tell Hezekiah, the leader of my people, 'this is what the LORD, the God of your father David, says: I have heard your prayer and seen your tears; I will heal you...” 2 Kings 20:5. God saw Hezekiah's tears.  God is close to us when we are in pain.

Psalm 34:18 "The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." Ask and receive God's love and encouragement for you because he is very near to you..

Reach Out to Others

As God has reached out to you, be an instrument of God to reach out and help others who are in pain. 

Solomon recognized the fact that people need to be comforted.  In Ecclesiastes 4:1 "Again I looked and saw all the oppression that was taking place under the sun: I saw the tears of the oppressed and they have no comforter; power was on the side of their oppressors- and they have no comforter." 

Ask God to use you to encourage others through their pain. By your own pain, you will be able to understand and help others. 

Christ our savior was in all points tested and understands all that you go through.  He reached out to us by giving his life so that we would be healed.

"The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me, because the LORD has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion- to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the LORD for the display of his splendor.” Isaiah 61:1-3 

We should make it our mission to follow this example.  To be instruments of healing by taking the time to care for those who are in pain and hurting.

Healing Takes Time

It takes time to heal. In my life, after 25 years there is still a hole in my heart but much smaller because of God.  Every time I feel God's presence, every time I see God's intervention in my life, and He grants me blessings, the hole in my heart gets smaller and is being replaced with God's heart.

"Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy." Psalm 126:5